Do you suffer from "I trusted where did it get me?"

peacelover · Post by **peacelover** » Dec 13th, 2007, 4:08 pm

I think I do sometimes by some of my posts. I'm actually a very positive person, but like many others in this world , I have had my trust broken many, many times. It leaves me sounding jaded, and according to some hearthearted. I'm not.

Just want to wish everyone the gift of peace in their hearts.

"I will honor Christmas in my heart and try to keep it all the year". Charles Dickens.

Fancy · Post by **Fancy** » Dec 13th, 2007, 4:22 pm

Merry Christmas - don't lose faith or trust - there are some really wonderful people in this world. (love the hearthearted (spelling) - so you're not as jaded as you think)

peacelover · Post by **peacelover** » Dec 13th, 2007, 5:06 pm

Thank you. Back at ya girl.

Catz · Post by **Catz** » Dec 13th, 2007, 6:18 pm

peacelover wrote:I think I do sometimes by some of my posts. I'm actually a very positive person, but like many others in this world , I have had my trust broken many, many times. It leaves me sounding jaded, and according to some hearthearted. I'm not.

Just want to wish everyone the gift of peace in their hearts.

"I will honor Christmas in my heart and try to keep it all the year". Charles Dickens.

I agree with you. I am a very trusting, sometimes nieve person, and then get trompped on. I usually give people the benefit of the doubt, and then I find someout someone pulled the wool over my eyes. Over the years I am trying not to let it bother me as much. Not sure if that makes sense. :130:

Piecemaker · Post by **Piecemaker** » Dec 13th, 2007, 6:29 pm

Puffy wrote:
peacelover wrote:I think I do sometimes by some of my posts. I'm actually a very positive person, but like many others in this world , I have had my trust broken many, many times. It leaves me sounding jaded, and according to some hearthearted. I'm not.

Just want to wish everyone the gift of peace in their hearts.

"I will honor Christmas in my heart and try to keep it all the year". Charles Dickens.

I agree with you. I am a very trusting, sometimes nieve person, and then get trompped on. I usually give people the benefit of the doubt, and then I find someout someone pulled the wool over my eyes. Over the years I am trying not to let it bother me as much. Not sure if that makes sense.

I think as we mature, we do become more discerning about the authenticity of others, but even still there are some who will proceed undetected who will go to any length to take advantage of another.
What it comes down to for me is that I'd rather be naive at times and get deceived and hurt by my trust in someone else, than to be the kind of person to do that to another.

Catz · Post by **Catz** » Dec 13th, 2007, 6:32 pm

Piecemaker wrote:
Puffy wrote:
peacelover wrote:I think I do sometimes by some of my posts. I'm actually a very positive person, but like many others in this world , I have had my trust broken many, many times. It leaves me sounding jaded, and according to some hearthearted. I'm not.

Just want to wish everyone the gift of peace in their hearts.

"I will honor Christmas in my heart and try to keep it all the year". Charles Dickens.

I agree with you. I am a very trusting, sometimes nieve person, and then get trompped on. I usually give people the benefit of the doubt, and then I find someout someone pulled the wool over my eyes. Over the years I am trying not to let it bother me as much. Not sure if that makes sense.

I think as we mature, we do become more discerning about the authenticity of others, but even still there are some who will proceed undetected who will go to any length to take advantage of another.
What it comes down to for me is that I'd rather be naive at times and get deceived and hurt by my trust in someone else, than to be the kind of person to do that to another.

I would never want to be the bitter angry person either.
What would life be like if you always thought...Is he or she going to screw me next...a paranoial issue hugely.
I also want to try and be happy most of the time. How can you be happy when you think people are always out to get you?

Piecemaker · Post by **Piecemaker** » Dec 13th, 2007, 6:35 pm

Exactly Puffy.

Catz · Post by **Catz** » Dec 13th, 2007, 6:44 pm

Piecemaker wrote:Exactly Puffy.

Post by **Triple 6** » Dec 13th, 2007, 7:09 pm

Puffy wrote:
Piecemaker wrote:Exactly Puffy.

Is someone out to get you? ? ? :125:

hardnut · Post by **hardnut** » Dec 14th, 2007, 8:55 am

To me, every new person I meet is a blank slate. While I truly hope that they will be a person I can trust and respect, it has to be proven. Then again, it also has to be proven that they are not worthy of trust or respect. People rarely take long to let you know on which side they fall.

kgcayenne · Post by **kgcayenne** » Dec 14th, 2007, 9:09 am

Patience serves as a protection against wrongs as clothes do against cold. For if you put on more clothes as the cold increases, it will have no power to hurt you. So in like manner you must grow in patience when you meet with great wrongs, and they will then be powerless to vex your mind.
~Leonardo da Vinci

I have extended myself to seemingly thankless people, yet certainly can't say I haven't disappointed people. I want to think that there will be patience on both sides of the coin. Can anyone of us say we've NEVER disappointed people we care about?

It bears asking though, what nature of transgressions are we speaking of? Different circumstances all bear their own weightiness.

Fleshfailures · Post by **Fleshfailures** » Dec 16th, 2007, 1:08 am

I'm way too trusting, and usually I'm wrong about who I trust, and then I get really bitter and sad. But then something really great will happen to restore my faith in trust, and that usually makes me feel like it's all worth it. If that made sense.

Post by **ferri** » Dec 16th, 2007, 1:14 am

that made perfect sense Paige-*! i was a lot like you when i was younger. i trusted everyone and always tried to see the good in every person i met. i still do try to see good, but i am not as quick to trust. it is something you learn along the way.

one thing about having people break your trust is that you get to be a better judge of people. and i don't mean like deciding if they are going to heaven or hell. :lol:

i mean that you learn just how much trust you can put in a person. now i hope i made sense. LOL

harvgar · Post by **harvgar** » Dec 23rd, 2007, 7:57 am

You said it just perfect Piecemaker. One thing that I never want to be is one of those old "pickled face" bitter old women. Mad at the world. Life is hard, and hanging on to bitterness because someone hurt your heart can be a long and tough "row to hoe". It is really good to have threads like this to vent, support each other and share our humaness. Strengths and weakness's. I hope this makes sence.....
:126:

Hugs....

hevvonly · Post by **hevvonly** » Dec 24th, 2007, 12:21 pm

We're never so vulnerable than when we trust someone--but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy.Author: Walter Anderson

I think that most of us have probably been hurt by someone in our past whom we trusted, and that trust was misplaced, but if you go through life never again taking a chance on people, you run the risk of never truly living. I try to think about all the people whom I have trusted and they never let me down, rather than focus on those few who betrayed my trust. A much more sastifying exercise.

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