Teen Set Of Fire At House Party

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This has nothing to do with this particular thread except I believe it is a good way to raise kids simply because we cannot wrap them in bubble wrap....make them knowledgeable, confident about what is out there.

Society, schools, each of us tend to hold tighter when events like this unfold. Rationalizing it as protection and safety from this harsh world.

When will we understand that coddling children only eliminates their opportunity to learn to deal with hurt, anger, and other emotion? This is an essential skill, even more so in today's "always on" world of social media.

We do not need to wrap children in a false blanket of self esteem, pretending everything is fair, the world is just and no one will hurt them. We need to let them experience the world, and provide them the support to develop the skills. The skills used to deal with the world as it is in all its harshness, beauty and uncertainty.

The sad reality is beyond the beauty of the world lie bullies, easy access to poor decisions, harsh truths and disappointment, just to mention a few. Its knowing this exists and confidence we can deal with it that allows us to look through it and step past it.

Ask yourself, why didn't I do something like this? Was it because it was wrong? No, it is because you saw through it, stepped past it! Each time understanding yourself more and becoming stronger and more confident.

How many times do you think or say, "I wish I knew then, what I know now"? Lol Where do you think the "knowing now" comes from? Dealing with the world and those experiences!

If we prevent children from dealing with the world as it really is and understanding it, we continue to run the risk of turning the schools into emotional bomb factories. Which poses the question as to WHEN this will happen again, not IF.

Just my 2 cents...
Jase

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Justice.

A teenager convicted of orchestrating an attack on a middle school classmate who was soaked in alcohol and lit ablaze was sentenced to 11 years in prison Thursday even as he continued to insist on his innocence.

Circuit Judge Matthew Destry agreed with prosecutors that Matthew Bent, 18, deserved the same sentence as the youth who flicked the lighter during the 2009 attack on Michael Brewer, who was then 15. Although Bent did not set the fire or pour the flammable liquid, Destry said he was just as much to blame. Bent was convicted of aggravated battery in June.

"I cannot ignore that, but for Mr. Bent's orchestration of these events, none of this would have happened," Destry said.

Before he was sentenced, Bent turned and apologized to Brewer but said he was not the ringleader.

"I didn't intend for any of this to happen," he said. "I didn't tell nobody to do that."

Brewer survived by leaping into an apartment complex swimming pool but suffered severe burns over two-thirds of his body. In court Thursday, he looked in good shape physically but family members say his skin grafts still cause pain and he suffers from frequent nightmares. His mother, Valerie Brewer, said the family was satisfied with the sentence.

"What happened to Michael touched people around the world. We got justice today," she said.

Brewer himself declined comment. "I'm good," he said.

The series of events began with a marijuana pipe that Brewer testified Bent wanted him to purchase. When Brewer declined, Bent allegedly went to the Brewer home and tried to steal a bicycle. Bent was arrested on theft charges.

The next day, fearing a reprisal, Brewer stayed home from Deerfield Beach Middle School that most of the boys involved attended. When school let out, Bent and a group of boys were walking home when they happened to find a jug of rubbing alcohol atop an apartment complex wall. About the same time, they ran into Brewer, who had decided to go over to a friend's house.

What happened next is in dispute. Some boys say Bent offered to pay them to punch Brewer, and others say it was Bent who signaled that they would pour the alcohol on him. Ultimately, according to trial testimony, the jug was dumped on Brewer by Denver Colorado Jarvis and then Jesus Mendez flicked his lighter.

Jarvis and Mendez pleaded no contest to attempted second-degree murder charges. Jarvis is serving an eight-year sentence and Mendez was sentenced to 11 years. Bent at one point was offered a plea deal and eight-year sentence, but opted for trial. He was acquitted of the attempted murder charge but convicted of aggravated battery in June.

Prosecutor Maria Schneider had urged Destry to impose the 11-year term on Bent, still less than the 15-year maximum.

"This young man refuses to accept any responsibility for what happened to Michael Brewer. I think that's very disturbing," she said.

Bent will be given credit for the three-plus years he has already spent in jail, leaving him with less than eight years to go. His father, Dennis Bent, said the conviction and sentence will be appealed.

"This case, it's not over," Dennis Bent said. "He didn't do anything wrong. I don't see it as fully justice."



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Prosecutor Maria Schneider had urged Destry to impose the 11-year term on Bent, still less than the 15-year maximum.

"This young man refuses to accept any responsibility for what happened to Michael Brewer. I think that's very disturbing," she said.

His father, Dennis Bent, said the conviction and sentence will be appealed.

"This case, it's not over," Dennis Bent said. "He didn't do anything wrong. I don't see it as fully justice."

Like father, like son. *sigh*