Are you an adult survivor of childhood abuse or molestation

[magreg]

If you are an adult survivor of childhood abuse or molestation, particularly at the hands of a parent, I would like to ask your opinion on how the courts are currently handling these issues:

1- do you think you would have been better off having your abuser 100% out of your life ? OR
2- do you think you would have benefited from having supervised visits with your abuser ? If so, how often, and until what age?
3- did you reveal the abuse early on to an adult ? If not, why not? Did they believe you?
4- has your abuser ever admitted what they did to you?
5- how has the abuse impacted your life as an adult?
6- do you still maintain a relationship with your abuser?

The reason I am asking, is that I am aware of a 3 year old that has been molested by her father, and the courts are forcing
her mother to hand her over to her father every weekend, including overnights. The paternal grandfather is supposed to be supervising, which is (in my opinion) laughable.
The Ministry of Children & Family has formed an opinion that the mother is planting the information, but their reasoning for this is very murky. One comment was that "even bad fathers get to see their children"
The current thinking of psychologists seems to be that the relationship between a child and parent should be encouraged, in spite
of abuse allegations.

I would appreciate any help I can get in trying to understand these issues- it makes no sense to me at all!

[kina]

Still trying to advertise the "BC Representative for Children and Youth"? Funny that you had to delete that last advertising paragraph on your original post here: http://forums.castanet.net/viewtopic.php?f=26&t=39714. So much for your need to "help children". More like a need to help your business.

Sounds to me like we've got a spammer.

[magreg]

OOPS- I reposted this on the social issues site, I'm new to this forum stuff- someone asked how I knew if the child had been molested and I guess I was a bit too graphic, so they removed my topic... live and learn? I think the "Canada" site is not the
best choice for this topic, but hopefully I can still get some opinions and comments.
If people don't talk about these issues, there can be no solutions. The people who have actually experienced abuse are the ones that can educate the decision-makers. Thank You Theo Fleury and others that have come out in public to denounce the abusers.

[coffeeFreak]

IMO, a public forum is not the place to ask anyone who has been abused to share. I strongly suggest you seek out a support group or counselling so you can discuss this issue in a more private way.

Here are three of many links you could search out for support and discussion:

http://kelowna.cioc.ca/record/KNA0165

We Are Adult Survivors of Child Abuse and Neglect
This website is dedicated to the tens of millions of adult survivors of child abuse and neglect
who get up every day and try to work and function in a world that seems to not care about us.
http://www.wearesurvivors.org/?p=1508

Dealing with Disclosure:

http://www.secasa.com.au/index.php/workers/17/48

[magreg]

Thank You Coffee Freak