Bosses who scream and yell at you...what to do?

[What_the]

Good old timer advice, of which I am also part of, not quite there, in between ;).

First question. What discipline are you? Or, what industry? And what specifically is the problem? Besides a "dick" boss, they never go away...even when one is self employed, there's always someone to answer to.

[Jflem1983]

Well knowing from experience u have 2 choices
. Put up with it . Until u find a better job . Or quit now and do something else

[Fancy]

Bosses who scream & yell at their employees verses having a productive conversation...
Any advice ?
...besides look for another job.

Tough one and have been the brunt of abuse myself. I stuck it out but stuck up for myself at the same time and believe me that was hard. Sometimes time helps - the "abuser" gives up or has an epiphany (happens). Sometimes the yeller doesn't know they are doing that. Diffuse the situation if possible by any means necessary. Or wear ear plugs.

[What_the]

Well knowing from experience u have 2 choices
. Put up with it . Until u find a better job . Or quit now and do something else

Well, yes and no. There's too many unknowns to give any specific guidance. I don't know everything. I don't know anything lol
I won't stop learning until I die.
In this case I might have have something to offer, but it s like telling a framer how to do carpentry....

[Even Steven]

Have you considered looking at yourself first to see if there's a reason why your boss is displaying displeasure with you?

[Atomoa]

Have you considered looking at yourself first to see if there's a reason why your boss is displaying displeasure with you?

Yelling isn't displaying displeasure. It's losing control of your emotions and behaving like a baby and violently.

It's not to OP's fault their boss is emotionally handicapped.

[JLives]

There is no solution except for leaving. I did that at my last job and am much happier now. Good luck!

[Even Steven]

Yelling isn't displaying displeasure. It's losing control of your emotions and behaving like a baby and violently. It's not to OP's fault their boss is emotionally handicapped.

We only have one side of the story. Some people tend to be overly dramatic and see yelling and bullying where the opposing party is simply being stern and raising their voice even by a few decibels. The boss firmly tells the guy to quit screwing around and pull the head out of the *bleep*, and the overly dramatic employee runs away sobbing "OMG, start bullying me, my boss is such a sociopath!".

Or I might be wrong, who knows. In which case I don't think I'd be staying there much longer.

Just trying to show a different perspective.

[artistwithaflare]

Have you considered looking at yourself first to see if there's a reason why your boss is displaying displeasure with you?

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His boss yells at everyone!!!

[artistwithaflare]

Yelling isn't displaying displeasure. It's losing control of your emotions and behaving like a baby and violently. It's not to OP's fault their boss is emotionally handicapped.

We only have one side of the story. Some people tend to be overly dramatic (artists especially) and see yelling and bullying where the opposing party is simply being stern and raising their voice even by a few decibels. The boss firmly tells the guy to quit screwing around and pull the head out of the *bleep*, and the overly dramatic employee runs away sobbing "OMG, start bullying me, my boss is such a sociopath!".

Or I might be wrong, who knows. In which case I don't think I'd be staying there much longer.

Just trying to show a different perspective.

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Yes, there is always two sides to every story and then there is the truth!

Truth is, most folks can handle constructive criticism but its hard to take it in when someone is violently screaming at you and calling you names. That is professionalism at its worse....and, if he does it to everyone then I would say its not a targeted event and a failure to communicate.

[artistwithaflare]

Yelling isn't displaying displeasure. It's losing control of your emotions and behaving like a baby and violently. It's not to OP's fault their boss is emotionally handicapped.

We only have one side of the story. Some people tend to be overly dramatic and see yelling and bullying where the opposing party is simply being stern and raising their voice even by a few decibels. The boss firmly tells the guy to quit screwing around and pull the head out of the *bleep*, and the overly dramatic employee runs away sobbing "OMG, start bullying me, my boss is such a sociopath!".

Or I might be wrong, who knows. In which case I don't think I'd be staying there much longer.

Just trying to show a different perspective.

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There are always 2 sides to every story and then there is the truth!

If your boss screams and yells at everyone...
If your staff turn around is big and people quit left and right...becasue of that fact.
Then I would say its time to address the problem.
Screaming & yelling never gets you anywhere.
You can be thick skinned but sooner or latter any form of abuse can wear you down.

[Even Steven]

Truth is, most folks can handle constructive criticism but its hard to take it in when someone is violently screaming at you and calling you names.

I remember on one of my first shifts in construction, I forgot to wear a helmet on site. My immediate supervisor yelled "Hey, doofus, don't catch me doing this again!" and threw a hard hat at me hard enough to almost knock me to the ground.

Violence? Check.
Screaming? Check.
Calling me names? Check.
Was it really necessary? Triple check.

But I learned the lesson, always took safety seriously since then, and it could have saved my health. And I was doing the exact same thing to newbies down the road. Or I could have run away screaming "OMG, I'm being bullied, stop yelling at me and communicate like I'm a human being!".

Sometimes it's appropriate. Sometimes it's not.

[Atomoa]

Some people tend to be overly dramatic and see yelling and bullying where the opposing party is simply being stern and raising their voice even by a few decibels. The boss firmly tells the guy to quit screwing around and pull the head out of the *bleep*, and the overly dramatic employee runs away sobbing "OMG, start bullying me, my boss is such a sociopath!".

Or I might be wrong, who knows. In which case I don't think I'd be staying there much longer.

Just trying to show a different perspective.

Fair enough, but anyone "raising their voice" even by a few decibels is trying to physically assert dominance or discipline. The only time raising a voice is appropriate is if someone is in danger. Remember my ATM thing? (ha - groan)

When I was a kid I was playing in my Grandfathers woodshop and messed a bunch of tools up and made a huge mess. He didn't yell or smack me. He told me he was disappointed in me and I could see it on his face even as a kid and it killed me. I looked up to him.

Any employer that has to lead by fear/intimidation doesn't deserve a gram of respect and obviously the OP needs to move on. True leaders lead by example and earn the respect of their employees. So many people are corrupted by greed and put in desperate situations due to our dysfunctional and self-defeating economic model that many people have learned to internalize, justify and accept abuse and bad behaviour from employers because they have so few economic choices.

I'm just sticking up for the worker, comrade.

[lesliepaul]

Family member (young) has worked at the same small family run business for close to 3 years. I told her when she started that a small business owner has a lot of "ups and downs"...........moneys coming in = HAPPY.........business is slow meaning less money coming in = A$$hole. The owner has displayed this repeatedly. He is the type of owner that shows up periodically and in these short encounters has given out some cash, Rockets tickets or even thanked her when he is in a good mood OR has called someone to the side and flipped out. Hard to quit when he is paying a somewhat decent wage WELL above minimum. When this job is said and done (soon), she will have come out of it with a stronger mindset that will help in the future and the true career.

A lot of small business's here in Kelowna (usually overpriced specialty shops that you see very few customers in) that have one or two employees can have owners that are more even tempered creating a laid-back work atmosphere. This because the owners have another business that makes the REAL money and their "hobby" business is something for a bored wife to occupy her time.

HD Hardware is a place that does not yell, which is a plus.........you just have to understand that you will NEVER be thanked for ANYTHING from a supervisor or assistant manager no matter how well of a job you have done or BEYOND your job description. There were a couple of supervisors there that would side with you but NEVER in front of a higher up.

[Troutslayer]

quit.........plain and simple find an employ that respects your contribution......!