Divorce Lawyer

[GerryL]

And we should have a medical system that requires no doctors. Brilliant.

[nepal]

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For those with children, divorce can be devastating to those children and impact their lives forever. There are narcissistic parents out there who don't give a hoot about their kids(even though they sometimes stupidly claim 'it is best for the kids'), and are totally consumed by their own selfish wants.
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https://forums.castanet.net/viewtopic.php?f=31&t=69965
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Yes, there are dire cases, but in many cases, it's a matter of one or more parents being too self-consumed.
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https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/tech-support/201605/13-essential-tips-if-you-are-divorcing-narcissist
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https://ifstudies.org/blog/the-adult-children-of-divorce-find-their-voice

[Queen K]

They should make getting Married very expensive and Divorce cheap.

Would solve a lot of problems.

No. People will just "shack up". Go to a courthouse on family day and watch the parade of losers. Al those dumb women who thought they could reform the guy!

What about the men who thought he'd help her turn her life around? The men who go after the hot girl who drinks, a lot. Or smokes weed and can't wait to spend $$$ on another tattoo but can't keep a job. The Knight in Shining Armour routine?

[nepal]

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https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/tech-support/201605/13-essential-tips-if-you-are-divorcing-narcissist
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[nepal]

Divorce can have a major life-altering negative impact on kids.

[nepal]

Did your parents put you through divorce torment...

[Queen K]

# Whose parents don't have assets because they made the lawyers wealthy instead.

Exactly.

The list goes on and on.

[Glacier]

Since both my wife and I have "divorced" parents, and since they all live in different places, we never see all of them in a given year because there aren't enough holidays (and money) in the year to travel to 4 different places spread around the continent.

[Bpeep]

Dang it.
I clicked on this thinking that glacier needed a divorce lawyer.

Woulda been a good catch.


As I get older, I find that men become like parking spaces.
All the good ones are gone, and the available ones are handicapped.

[foodsmith]

Someone just dodged one helluva big bullet there...

[nepal]

Best Christmas wishes for children of split families:

# Who have to decide how to share Christmas between separated parents.
# Who have only one parent they respect enough to spend Christmas with.
# Who lose touch with siblings, as they now have less contact and won't hear from them at Christmas.
# Who choose to spend Christmas away from family, rather than make a choice.
# Who won't want to deal with the complexity of step-families that they had no choice.
# Who won't see or hear from a deadbeat parent who abandoned their family for greener pastures.
# Who have to do risky and costly travel between parents.
# Who are alienated by relatives and former family friends who no longer want to be associated due to the split.
# Who’s narcissistic parent dotes on stepchildren to impress new spouse, while neglecting their own now abandoned and confused children.
# Who as a child were physically abused by narcissistic parent, by hitting with wooden spoon, spanking, slapping, etc.
# Who are in some way abused by step-families.
# Who have to deal with a greedy step-parent, who cleans-out the new spouse's finances.
# Who have less or no family around, to share their accomplishments and important days, such as birthdays, graduations, weddings, etc.
# Who have only one gender home to help mentor them in shaping their personality.
# Who have bad marks in school, because they are consumed by family problems.
# Who have bad marks at school, because the only struggling parent has no time to help with homework.
# Who are alienated by former school friends.
# Who are bullied at school, because they've lost friends and family support.
# Who are accused of things they didn't do, because they are a convenient target.
# Who don't have proper diet or hygiene, because one struggling parent can't see-to nor afford the basics, such as dental.
# Who are struggling financially, as parents split assets and made lawyers wealthy instead.
# Who watched lawyers draw-out the battle, to maximize billable hours, rather than suggest reconciliation.
# Who lose their familiar family home and now live in less home, or on the street.
# Who have been robbed of a decent childhood, due to a narcissistic parent(s)
# Who may never see nor hear from family members for the rest of their life.
# Who have their own children, who may never meet their divorced grandparent(s).
# Who have a parent villainizing their x-spouse, by inventing hurtful stories about them, making themselves look innocent.
# Who have an adulterous parent, who thinks they've kept it secret, and villainize the other parent.
# Who's adulterous parent starts a new life elsewhere, claiming to be the innocent victim, but is actually the narcissistic perpetrator, who slanders the real victim parent.
# Who, usually the youngest, question who their genetic father is.
# Who have a substance abuse parent, sometimes to relieve family induced stress, driving the family further into destruction.
# Who has a parent who accuses their spouse of substance abuse, yet themself use substances or act to induce the abuse.
# Who have parents who lived beyond their financial means and then argued their family into destruction.
# Who has a parent who may not support or understand their spouse during times of spouse's non-family related stress.
# Who remember family details at a very young age, but finally join the destructive dots, when they are older and wiser.
# Who fear creating their own relationships, for fear of the example their parents set.
# Who suffer the side effects of their parents selfish actions, for a lifetime.
# Who's parents inflict upon their children, what they themselves may never have experienced nor comprehend.
# Who have a parent who is too narcissistic to honestly own-up and truly apologize to their children for the lifetime of pain, suffering and lost opportunities they’ve inflicted upon them.
# Who’s life-dreams are scuttled, because narcissistic parents prioritized themselves.
# Who’s self-consumed parent(s) narcissistically claim that ‘divorce is best for the kids’.
# Who at an old age, have painful broken-family memories, they wish they could somehow delete.
# Who use substance abuse to ease the pain.
# Who has a parent that dies inside, because the narcissistic x-spouse gutted them.
# Who may pre-decease their parent(s), as the ultimate result of being a victim of divorce.

# Who will put on a Happy Face, to try to make a parent happy.

# Sometimes one or both parents can get a mature, compassionate, grip on life, and avoid all the above. Life is very short, there are no dress-rehearsals, no time-outs, just make it right asap. When you have children, life is not about you anymore. Family and life are like an intricate vase, in that once it is broken, it can never be made un-broken again.

# Some children of split families will simply be happy and well adjusted.

## Some children of divorced parents go on to have a very strong marriage, to not repeat the destruction of their narcissistic parent(s)

## Children of strong, well functioning, original family units, appreciate how incredibly fortunate you are. Your compassion for those less fortunate, will likely be appreciated.

[nepal]

Christmas 2018 is upon us: Children of divorced families are forced into a universe that others will never fully understand. Take care during this time of year and know that there are those of us who do at least partly understand.

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