A Lack of Kindness

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I wonder if we're not seeing a culmination of sorts from multiple issues that have been brewing long term. Tee pandemic has certainly shone a spotlight on a lot of very basic problems with the way we do things, not the least of which is the steady growth of economic inequality over the last forty or fifty years. We are much busier now, dual income families are a financial necessity where once the stay-at-home mom was the norm, and the cohesiveness of the family unit has suffered. Crime, homelessness, drug & mental health issues, along with our general state of health have all steadily moved up in prominence. But the biggie in my mind is the internet, which has allowed everyone the means to vent the underlying frustrations of life in a world that grows continually more challenging by the day, and to vent those frustrations without having to be accountable. In short, we are forgetting our manners.

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I'm finding both sides of many debates are becoming more extreme in their intolerance of other stances.

Either those of us who are more moderate are smaller in number or quieter online.

I'm trying to be consistently respectful but I'm also finding the hostility out there is causing me to want to fade into the background. I'm extremely non-confrontational and the rage online is causing me to feel like I need to hide. :runforlife:

I've even stopped going into many of the controversial threads.

You are right fluffy, there is a definite dearth of manners.
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Lady tehMa wrote: Sep 4th, 2021, 7:48 am I've even stopped going into many of the controversial threads.
I have recently decided to make better use of the friend/foe function on our user control panel. This board has become much more enjoyable in just a few short days.
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Lady t, ^^^ X2. :up: :up:

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Can't forget what one never had - some people were never taught manners, and it shows
Not specific to any age group either
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Fluffy ( if you can see this lol) I really appreciate the FOE function. Never used the FRIEND, does that highlight the person's post or something?
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normaM wrote: Sep 4th, 2021, 7:56 am Fluffy ( if you can see this lol) I really appreciate the FOE function. Never used the FRIEND, does that highlight the person's post or something?
I think it does, although I don't use it. I think there's a sort of speed-dial aspect to it too. "Foe" is reserved for special cases, people seemingly unable to express themselves without insult and/or ridicule. I'm not seeing these people aren't entitled to their opinion, but I do reserve the right not to listen. I think there's a lot to be said for removing disturbing influences whenever possible. Remember The Desiderata ?
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Ka-El wrote: Sep 4th, 2021, 7:23 am that is because vaxxers outnumber anti-vaxxers by ten to one.
It's more like 4 to 1.
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fluffy wrote: Sep 4th, 2021, 7:53 am I have recently decided to make better use of the friend/foe function on our user control panel. This board has become much more enjoyable in just a few short days.
I'm not sure I understand. So you're just ignoring the people you don't agree with and that is better? Sounds like an echo chamber.
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Sparki55 wrote: Sep 4th, 2021, 8:53 amI'm not sure I understand. So you're just ignoring the people you don't agree with and that is better? Sounds like an echo chamber.
It's not that I don't agree with them, it's that they can't act in a manner that is considered socially acceptable, and I am in no way obliged put up with that. I'm talking about people who do not come here to discuss, but are motivated by a need to inflame and insult. This goes to the thread topic, and the internet, in particular social media, has given these people a venue in which to practice bad behavior without repercussion. In the real world these people quickly find themselves without friends, I like that the "foe" function extends that choice to this forum.
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fluffy wrote: Sep 4th, 2021, 9:18 am
Sparki55 wrote: Sep 4th, 2021, 8:53 amI'm not sure I understand. So you're just ignoring the people you don't agree with and that is better? Sounds like an echo chamber.
It's not that I don't agree with them, it's that they can't act in a manner that is considered socially acceptable, and I am in no way obliged put up with that. I'm talking about people who do not come here to discuss, but are motivated by a need to inflame and insult.
I have used that function as well. There are a few people on it, inflammatory trolls I don't want to see the posts by. People who just like to stir the pot versus actually discussing.

I think the friend function just keeps them listed for ease of pm's, but I could be wrong?

We can't stay in echo chambers, Sparki55 - but we don't need to be subject to abuse either.
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Just the National Lampoon versions Fluffy
Yes, I have only a few on foe, usually the ones who I foe end up getting banned so I reckon I wasn't alone in thinking they were here just to stir the pot
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fluffy wrote: I have recently decided to make better use of the friend/foe function on our user control panel. This board has become much more enjoyable in just a few short days.
I know I’m guilty of sometimes baiting or insulting other posters (I always snicker when someone insults me and then starts crying when they get insulted back) but that is not the poster I want to be. I have also noticed increased peace by ignoring certain posters and I think I need to remain more assiduous in ignoring others. It is always more enjoyable to engage in adult conversation, and it is unfortunate we’ve lost some really thoughtful posters due to the childish attacks they were continually subjected to. I don’t mind some subtle baiting or insult but there are posters here who almost always default to juvenile rhetoric and I want to be as unlike them as possible. Ya, I’ve got to work to do but I can admit that (see how long I last).
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I have no one on foe.
I just ignore.
One of the best poster here is erinmore3775
Kind, mature, informative, insightful and free of insults.
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PoplarSoul wrote:One of the best poster here is erinmore3775
Kind, mature, informative, insightful and free of insults.
Agreed. Hopefully we don't lose her/him as well due to the juvenile attacks she/he is often subjected to.
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